When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time—Maya Angelo
Pain is a part of growing up. That’s how we learn. Although this is true, sometimes we can avoid pain by simply taking our time. When we move too fast, sometimes we overlook important details in situations that can prevent us from experiencing huge amounts of pain and hardship. When it comes to choosing a mate, paying attention to the details…is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life. For example, I just saw a quote today from Tyler Perry that said: “Before you marry someone…make sure you give yourself time to observe that person in all four seasons. Pay attention to how that person behaves when they’re happy, mad, stable, broke, or when they’ve been hurt.” The quote went on further to say that we often wonder why people change on us; When in reality it’s not that they changed; we just never took the time to really know that person, nor did we take the time to observe them at their worst…. This resonated with me on a soul level. I promised myself that particular life lesson will forever stay with me. The next time, I won’t move so fast; I’ll take my time and pay attention to the details, so I won’t overlook all the red flags. 🚩 You can bet your last dollar that I’ll be more careful next time.